Your Worst Critic
I am a new songwriter (I am 17 and have been doing it for a little under a year) Do you have any tips for “turning off the editor “. I have found that I am too frustrated to write because I am way too hard on myself. How do I write material that I will enjoy playing?
For many of us, we write songs because we enjoy the art of writing, singing, playing, performing, or simply fooling around on an instrument and pairing words with chords to express ourselves. I can remember a time when just listening to music I enjoyed was enough to vault me into a new dimension of satisfaction and joy. Sometimes music was my escape from a difficult environment, a comfort, and a healer in good times and bad.
I remember writing my first song when I was in my teens. I remember the feeling of being quite impressed with myself, very proud of the fact I could construct a verse and a chorus that was as beautiful (to my ears) as the verses and choruses I loved on the radio. I approached the song with a certain knowing, though I was not educated in any of the tools and strategies I now use to write tunes. I knew what I liked, and I knew what I thought was beautiful. And that was enough for me to take pride in what I had created.
Now when I write songs, I can very easily slip into the worry that what I’m writing isn’t good enough, marketable enough, cool, slick, dumbed-down (for certain markets), or smart enough (for other markets). I have a clear idea of where I’d like the song to go, like an insecure parent hoping to find my own success in the accomplishments of my ‘children.’ If I’m not successful at finding that song a home on a big record somewhere, I have obviously failed at my job.
This kind of thinking will eventually always lead to burn-out. When my writing becomes something I expect will serve and love me instead of me serving and loving my writing, it becomes a reminder of all I am failing to accomplish. 17 years old is much too young to come to this place, but it’s certainly a sad place for us to be at any age.
There is a fantastic book I highly recommend on the subject of allowing ourselves to love our art of expression again. Written by Kenny Werner, the book with included CD is called Effortless Mastery. Kenny is a highly regarded jazz musician, whose love for playing extends beyond almost anyone I know in the industry. But it wasn’t always that way. So to begin your process of softening your opinions of yourself and your art, I recommend starting with that book.
We all go through periods where writing is difficult. Maybe the ideas don’t come easy; maybe we’re in a phase where nothing sounds original. When I find myself in that place, I make special effort to simply keep writing, giving myself permission to write what I doubt is ‘good’ songwriting. I write 10 poor songs, full of clichés, embodying some of my most boring ideas. I start object writing or destination writing, and do it for 10 minutes every day. I sit down for a week and only write melodic motifs, record them, and file them away on my computer for a rainy day. I allow myself to let go of what drives me to critique my songs so harshly – even if it’s just for 5 minutes while I write out some lyrics.
Consider that those you are writing for need only to be reached at soul-level, to believe that what you are saying in your songs is true and real. I’ll be trying to do the same every day, whether it’s for 10 minutes, or 2 hours.
Good luck – and get that book!
Andrea Stolpe


